It’s just that it took me many years to understand who I really was and I figured from your comment you were also quite secure in the knowledge of who you the person was and what she needed. Does this make more sense?

Ack, looks like I didn’t communicate my thoughts properly.

I may know myself and what I want, but like many people (particularly women) I struggle to retain the courage of my convictions in the face of other’s disapproval.

I have changed jobs, careers, homes, countries a number of times. I don’t care about a lot of stuff my family and even society at large find important. And what that means is my wants and my decisions often put me in the “she’s crazy” basket.

By 37 I should be fine with this and brave enough to claim my truth regardless of my family and friends’ opinions, but in reality it’s still an up-hill battle.

Turning down the $5,000 job, for example, was a very hard decision I literally made myself sick over. I knew I could afford to say “No”, but I also knew most people would say “yes” because it just fell in my lap. Even my husband wanted me to do it, so I went to and fro trying to justify why the money wasn’t worth the pain of juggling my son, a strict deadline and a difficult client.

I think the surest path to freedom and happiness is: Know yourself. Be yourself. Make your own decisions no matter what others think. And take responsibilty for yourself and your actions.

I’ve got some of this worked out, and I still have ways to go on the rest.

Cheers
Kelly

Took me ages to achieve this but it certainly does help once you arrive at that point. Balance is a huge part for most of us, isn’t it.

Especially in the hectic world we all live in. These days it is a lot harder to admit that we do in fact need a break.

Sounds like you have it all worked out though which is really great. How many people wander aimlessly through life chasing the wrong things. Great comment, thank you for showing me and my readers a little bit of the you within.

I worked in business for many years which doesn’t really go with the Libran personality, but I was happiest when I got around that by working with great people or working in an organisation I could feel was HELPING people.

Even now as a freelance marketer and copywriter, I only work for small to medium sized companies who I feel I can contribute to, without being sucked into the capitalist machine. I actually turned down a $5,000 job last year because it was for a big finance company who I just knew I would be miserable working for. Mind you, I do have the luxury of doing this because I am the part time worker in my house and full time mummy.

I also agree with the laziness part, but think it spins off from a Libran’s creativity and social interaction and peace keeping efforts. People have the ability to really drain you, lack of balance is also very draining, so us Librans get to this point where it becomes crucial to be alone and do nothing and recharge.

I think BALANCE is going to be the buzz word for my whole life as I have a tendency to overload myself and then stop, run away and hide. My life never seems to be in the middle.

My son is on the cusp of Aries and Taurus so I will be very interested to see the man he becomes. He already has the ego of Aries and the bullheaded approach of a Taurus. Yay (sigh).

Kelly

You forgot the “Mustela” (The Weasel)

(That one’s reserved for senior managers!)

Heh heh heh heh.

- Friar